Wife hikes Tibet and I got the chance to take care my teenage kids next 21 days, all by myself. In fact to certain degree, they are taking care of or entertaining me. There is no such thing nowaday as parenting for teenagers who usually are not fond of being taken care anyway. Nowadays when doing workshops, comments from parents that kids not respond no matter how hard parents want to create a dialogue, perhaps a word here and there in reply; that's it. The more the parents want their kids to talk, the more mutes received in return. Talk about frustration!
Judith Harris on her book " Nurture Assumption" put forward her points that parents have far less influence with their kids than they think. Most kids are influenced by peers far more than parents. On the surface, it holds truth if you look at communications between kids and parents. Thinking further, aren't we all the same when we were kids? It could take years to find out how much care and love that parents gave out of good intention but weren't communicated properly by both parties. Luckily parents nowadays have mind of continuously educating themselves when talking to kids. It's comforting to see young parents to learn parental skills to prepare themselves for challenges in the future. I also see the surge of enquires about coaching skills - the use of it as parents.
Great stuff!
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