Reading "Flow"

The section was talking about family. Some of the most rewarding or frustrated experiences one could have are result of family relationship. You have could a successful career but family usually is right up there as the number one priority especially when people looking back in life that how much they have missed by not being more with family members.The core of family relationship lies with couples to which relationship is built and children look upon their parents as they search models in life from youngster, adolescent to young adult. Couple comprises to stay healthy is crucial and is a difficult task to maintain. Sustenance for marital relationship is a process both ma and pa must work hard on it. When two focus on each other, both must be change of habit to get the result of change they desire.Most know getting married requires a radical and permanent reorientation of the couple that suit the status from single to married. When a child added to the pair, that complicates the process triply that without conscious reflection of what role ma and pa are gonna be, it could derail the relationships as originally desired. All these conscious change and reflection take constant hard works. If a person is unwilling to adjust personal goals when starting a relationship as weighty as marriage, then a lot of what subsequently happens in that realtionshjp will produce disorder to a point that will derail the relationship itself. The book distincts outside and inside conditions that affect family. Outside condition encompasses family economic, materials, where to live, what profession of ma and pa. These are valued through the social norm that are weighty back in the minds of most people. The serenity lies with the inside condition where couple must look upon what they do is congruent what they believe and align with family members that create the bigger supporting background for inevitable adverse situations to come.I like the quote by Cicero that to be completely free on must become a slave of a set of law. Personally it holds true to me. I know myself being mostly a desirous to be "free" person, the fact absolutely free is a ticket to "chaos" which is unthinkable for me in the past. The book cites examples how healthy marriage lasts, it's the commitment by ma and pa solemnly vowed to better, to worst, and to dealth that do them apart literally. By investing psyche energy (attention) to preserve the marriage is the best way as suggested by the author.